Sunday, July 03, 2005

七月的教堂
2005年07月03日
俞小樂
(
執業律師)


人 生 各 有 奇 逢 。
可 能 是 我 孤 陋 寡 聞 , 直 至 最 近 才 聽 到 這 個 精 彩 故 事 , 但 它 充 份 說 明 天 無 絕 人 之 路 , 非 常 值 得 分 享 。
故 事 由 一 個 男 孩 有 志 成 為 職 業 外 交 家 開 始 , 因 此 他 本 來 攻 讀 法 律 。 頭 腦 不 簡 單 的 人 偏 又 四 肢 發 達 , 命 運 安 排 他 丟 下 書 本 , 讓 他 出 色 的 足 球 技 術 吸 引 了 皇 家 馬 德 里 領 隊 的 注 意 , 先 獲 羅 致 為 後 備 , 後 來 更 晉 身 正 選 龍 門 。 這 時 他 才 二 十 二 歲 , 前 途 要 多 光 明 有 多 光 明 , 要 多 燦 爛 有 多 燦 爛 。
活 在 雲 端 的 天 之 驕 子 , 忽 然 遇 上 幾 乎 奪 命 的 車 禍 , 縱 然 逃 出 鬼 門 關 , 卻 局 部 癱 瘓 達 兩 年 之 久 。 遑 論 回 到 綠 茵 , 根 本 是 舉 步 維 艱 , 物 理 治 療 度 日 。
男 孩 最 心 灰 意 冷 的 時 候 , 好 心 的 世 叔 送 他 一 隻 舊 結 他 , 鍛 煉 手 指 恢 復 靈 活 也 好 , 多 學 一 門 玩 意 消 愁 解 悶 也 好 。 從 第 一 個 和 絃 開 始 學 習 彈 奏 , 男 孩 逐 漸 把 病 榻 所 感 所 思 譜 成 樂 章 , 恰 巧 被 唱 片 公 司 發 掘 他 的 作 曲 天 份 和 金 嗓 子 , 從 此 一 舉 成 名 , 風 靡 拉 丁 世 界 、 甚 至 非 拉 丁 語 系 國 家 。 至 目 前 為 止 , 他 仍 然 是 個 人 唱 片 最 高 銷 量 世 界 紀 錄 保 持 者 , 閒 閒 能 以 六 、 七 種 語 文 演 唱 。
這 是 西 班 牙 情 歌 王 子 Julio Iglesias 的 故 事 。 西 班 牙 文 Julio 即 July , Iglesias 就 是教堂 。
七 月 艷 陽 映 照 堂 的 彩 色 玻 璃 , 人 間 的 色 彩 就 是 這 麼 瑰 麗 , 只 要 你 願 意 陽 光 照 進 來 。

堂

Wednesday, June 29, 2005

this is good and insightful! I've got this sharing from my ex-HKU friends..

先照顧自己

「You have to be selfish to be selfless.」(「想要無私先要自私」),那
位擔任人生導師(life coach)的朋友提出這個概念時,我感到有點愕然,但很快
明白了她的道理。

當晚討論的主題是「自設界限」,即是說每個人必須預留給自己相當的私人空間,
只有這樣,才可能身心靈健康,然後做事做得好(包括奉獻的工作),對人態度
好,生活過得快樂。

聽了三位專家,過來人分享(注),我知道自己正是犯了這種毛病的經典例子:人
家央求做事,往往來者不拒;,好像覺得說「不」是自私的,應該內疚的,其實我
既不自量力,又不懂計算後果。

後果是甚麼?原來你做「黃大仙」,任由人家使用你的時間精力,往往導致:

——人家過分倚賴你(你幫他幫得太多太周到);

——各方人士團體將你當做廉價勞工(因為找你出力特別容易);

——你事務太繁雜,而且長期匆忙緊張,反而主力做的事情無法集中火力做好;

——你筋疲力竭,待人態度轉劣,你的忙碌不耐煩辛勞模樣及面容「污染」四周環
境、立壞榜樣;

——你很可能終於大病一場;

——你靈性生活貧瘠,往往忙得團團轉而失去方向感,做事事倍功半,甚至誤人歧途。

以上情況是不是有些熱心人、神職人員、社會領袖的寫照呢尹那幾位專家教了我們
自衛絕招——



A friend of mine who is doing a very interesting counselling course told
me about this inspiring theory of "co-dependence". I "think" it means
something like 'some people enjoy helping others so that they can forget
about their own problems, pain and griefs. And if they are not needed
for help anymore, they don't know what to do with themselves.' Correct
me if I am wrong, Jean.



My friends, now take 2 minutes to reflect on the fact that whether you
do belong to the 'co-dependence' gang. If you do, congratulations!!!
You're a very very kind person but I urge you to seek professional help
such as counselling service.

i never do a strategy plan on myself ....to understand my strength weakness, as well as external threat and opportunities...and decide what i want to be in 3 years time?

so years and years gone..and everything still the same....what do you want to do?

isn't that ironic?

eugene, who are you? where do you want to go?

Tuesday, May 03, 2005

i think i am much tired than before...
maybe i am older now..keep feeling that I don't have enough sleep or didn't sleep well last night...
try wake up earlier to get swimming tomorrow...
eugene

Sunday, May 01, 2005

this is the last polyu project - on web advertising...and when doing the final paper wrap up..i suddently realized that I haven't really put it down of my "burden" with esdlife...memories of unhappiness and unfairness surface..it's a subjective feelings..but somehow the unhappiness dominate the happy stuff over last few years....

but who knows...maybe the hidden unhappiness and pressure drive me to move forward, while other are still in their comfort zone.

it's a pin inside? shall we move forward?

i hope i can finish the paper tomorrow..and start everythings new again..

i've get used to face and solve problem in front of me...what if there is virutally no problem in front? what to solve? what to face?

Sunday, April 17, 2005

it's the process...don't you think it's a ride whereas we should take a look on the beautiful landscape outside and the friendship made during the ride?

sometimes, it's not all about the achievement...all those belong to the company...but the experience, feelings, learning, friendship, and the capability to break through are all your earnings that you can carry, regardless whether you are in this company and move on.

so eugene, keep on moving and treasure every bits along the life..

add oil!

Saturday, April 16, 2005

一天晚上,有個女孩在機場等候飛機,離起飛還有幾個小時,於是她在機場商店找了一本書,買了一袋甜餅乾之後找了個地方坐下。她酷愛讀書,所以聚精會神的沉浸在書?,卻無意中發現,那個坐在她身邊的男人,竟未經允許就從他們中間的袋子?抓起一兩塊甜餅,塞進嘴?。
她試著迴避這件事,避免在大庭廣眾發怒。她繼續讀著書,並使勁嚼著餅乾,看著時間──當那個偷餅賊繼續消耗她的甜餅的時候。時間一分一秒地過去,她也越來越氣憤,她想:“我要不是這樣寬容,一定當眾讓他出出醜,可惡的偷吃別人餅乾的人!”
每當她拿一塊甜餅,他也跟著拿一塊。當只剩下最後一塊時,她猜測他會怎麼做。他的臉上浮現出善良的微笑,並略帶拘謹,他拿起最後那塊甜餅,並把它分成了兩半。
他遞給她半塊,自己開心的吃著手中的另一半。女孩從他手中搶過那半塊餅,心想:“天啊,這傢伙還挺有意思,他無禮的吃了我的餅乾,連聲謝謝都不說一句。”
當她的航班通知登機時,她如釋重負地鬆了口氣,收拾起自己的行李走向門口,並拒絕回頭看一眼那個吃她甜餅而且忘恩負義的傢伙! 。
她登上飛機,舒適的坐在座位上,然後找到那本快看完的書,當她把手伸進皮包時,她意外而吃驚的摸到了一袋沒有開封的甜餅!!!!
如果這是我的,她後悔地自言自語道,那剛才另一包就該是他的,而他卻盡力與我分享本屬於他的甜餅!
可是已經太遲了,她無法道歉了。飛機進入雲層,她望著厚厚的雲層,心情是那樣的沉重和難受,那個忘恩負義的偷餅人竟然是自己。
生活?,很多人養成了習慣,不斷在以懷疑的眼光審視著身邊的人,哪怕那些和自己一點關係也沒有的陌生人。我們甚至還懷疑自己是否受到了那些善良陌生人的“挑釁和侮辱”。在我們深深地厭惡這些身邊人的時候,是否會想到,我們也許誤解了他人。……

Tuesday, March 15, 2005

how to relax, stay calm and happy all the times..despite all the problem, tasks on hand?

it's matter of personality, and techniques to embrace it...

:-P

Monday, March 07, 2005

foolish, isn't it...
my colleagues brought the copy to HO, and i brought them back accidentally, and therefore the head doesn't have the materials to show.
if..i call my colleagues in advance..
if..i read through the email in details..
if..i am smart to understand the whole situation..

add oil!!!

Thursday, January 27, 2005

i'm very very sleepy today..even in office.
i think i didn't sleep well. it 's true that i left office until 11pm last night, but giving the whole week - poor sleep...the sleepness just accumulated, and I had difficulty to hold my eye and concentrate on the document in front of me.

add oil!!!

eugene

Monday, December 27, 2004

this christmas is very quiet actually. no gathering nor party with friends..and actually throughour the three holidays, I've been in PolyU to study for exam on 28 Dec. It's been the first time where Chritmas days turns to examination preparation day.

reading the materials of software engineering. I think I've learned more, not purely for examination purpose, but I'd know more, especailly on OO Design and UML It's been an interesting experience, not only purely to study for examination but also capture the learning and fun during the process.

and besides, it's been fun to read some books at night (that I purchased online but hasn't got time to read). after the exam and the study, I'd have plenty of time to read these books seriously.

so today is the last Christmas holiday, get prepared for the last study day and shoot for tomorrow. I can imagine many friends gathering will happen next year.

Wednesday, December 22, 2004

ironical. on one hand, i really want to hear the good news, but on the other hand, i am worry that the news is too early and disrupt the original schedule.
so it's really interesting to feel my controversal feelings...
- still did't receive any call...will it means that I've got declined?
- if i receive the call today, will it be too early?

also, feeling tired and dizzy because of heavy work in exam and assignment. Come on, still have one more week to go. Add oil and Cheer Up and Smile!!!

Friday, October 08, 2004

離開是為了回來

明天就要飛走
朋友都輕鬆奉上祝福 旅途愉快
留低是個選擇 離開亦未算放開一切壓抑
如愛上一個人 一起上路
才驟覺尚有 一些心野
行程未想好 起點經已太遠
人進進出出在我生命
季節更改幻變天地 歲月流過
遺憾若是放不下
仍可學習去感激得到過的
如放棄一個人 孤身上路
才驟覺尚有一些心軟
忙著讓傷口盡快風乾
沿路風光沒心機細看
明明是太軟弱偏裝作硬朗

倘若結束為了重新開始
乾掉了酒為了重新斟滿
旅途落泊 能讓記憶穩固
偶然下雨懷念陽光可愛

歡樂太短為了回憶千次
失掉瑰寶為了尋找安慰
我離別你全為太專心愛
怕忘掉了世間的色彩
離開 是為了回來

從機艙機望向跑道
迅速身處萬尺高空
我留下你
城市跟天空大概一樣
容納著敵友從不知道偏心
曾遇上幾個人 一心靠近
才驟覺尚有 一些心癮
離別再上路 不管遠或近

倘若結束為了重新開始
乾掉了酒為了重新斟滿
旅途落泊 能讓記憶穩固
偶然下雨懷念陽光可愛
倘若痛哭為了趁早解脫
失掉瑰寶為了尋找安慰
我離別你全為太專心愛
怕忘掉了世間的色彩
離開 是為了回來

明天就要飛走
朋友都輕鬆奉上祝福 旅途愉快

Sunday, October 03, 2004

wow..just realize so much to do every days / weeks.
today i didn't go out..have done the assignment for software engineering, peer throught the financial computing, prepared the tainining materials for work on monday...tidy up desk and going to do some mandarin learning..
and it's already a full day...

so much to do...

Friday, September 24, 2004

You're at the climax of your yearly cycle, Scorpio. That means you have the power to harvest the best possible outcomes of all the themes you've been developing since your last birthday. Here are two pieces of advice to help you make the most of this magic moment.
1. Use the system but don't let it use you. Refuse to believe that any bureaucracy or organization is stronger than you.
2. Frequently ask yourself the following question: "What is the most fun, productive, and liberating action I can take right now?"
~ freewill astrology (Week of Septebmer 10 HKWeekly)

Monday, September 20, 2004

i am tired..the feeling is not the same as physically tiredness nor psychologically overflow...

well physically, tired, considered the long working hours + homework at night + all other chaos...

since this is monday - still okay as I've got hours of sleep during sunday morning - wake up at noon.

psychologically?

maybe kinds of mix...

time to get a break?

Wednesday, September 15, 2004

dairy
installed Hello from picasa. It's just real different and new experience to try google software...so intuitive and direct...it must be something that tested and discussed with users extensively...

today, wake up at 6:15am and work till 11:00pm..now back at home..catch some sleep and wake up early again. see u tomorrow!

Monday, September 13, 2004

如果在下一秒鐘,這世代的文明遭逢毀滅性的災難!那麼,這些文字就成了我的『時間膠囊』…說不定有一天,一個小朋友會在偶然的機會下發現...

Sunday, September 12, 2004

there are lots of chanllenges ahead, this semster study is not easy, as the course financial computing seems quite difficult, not to mentioned the work loading and difficulties.

reviewing the course materials, i just barely remember all those finanacial derivates concept and logic...wow..

i'd been very lazy in the last week and hasn't gone for swimming in the morning. Finally, got some time to swim during the sunday afternoon.

i do consider sport is a very good suppliment to fight against pressure in life, better keep moving and exercising...

Friday, September 10, 2004

why i am so devoted to nikon?

because my first camera is Nikon FM2 - the first single lens reflex camera. It is a pure manual camera, by pre manual, it means i have to set the focus, aperture, shutter speed, ISO and everything within the seconds when doing shooting. It's been a terrific experience. With such manual setting in every shoot, now I could tell you this is ISO 400, F2.8, 1/60 under the evening ...and it's ISO100 F8, 1/250 under sunlight, without any metering tool or digital camera in hand.

there had been so many new changes in camera history. The introduction of auto-focus (making everything auto and easy), the digital format..But Nikon keep insist to the manual -focus camera line - FM series and F3. And actually they continue to put technology investment on the manual focus camera and bring out FM3a. Furthermore, they have been so committed to customer, and refuse to change the lens -ring. So basically, you could use your 20 years manual focus lens on any nikon camera body, including digital camera as well. It has been a very very big compromise, and lens design is limited by the historical ring design. Sill Nixon is willing to make the commitment to it's loyal customer. It's just too easy to put a STOP signal, and start everything completely new - like the Canon EOS system, Olympics E system, but it's not easy to keep embracing the old products and continue to innovate while taking care of the legacy system.

i still miss my "stolen" Nikon FM2....should buy it back in the second hand market...and i still loves nikon as usual.